The secret to a happy relationship

Gail Braznell

In a perfect world, each moment of a relationship would be like a romantic scene in a movie with us seizing every opportunity to sweeten up even the most seemingly unsentimental times together. Life is so busy for all of us, and there are so many other things that we could be doing with our time, that we struggle to get our priorities in order.

Your relationship with your partner is one of the most important in your life. You go through life together sharing experiences, friendships and even children, yet it doesn’t mean it’s always going to be easy. When you first fall in love, it’s natural to want to spend all your time together, to make love whenever you want or to talk without being constantly interrupted. But over the years things change, so often, with the demands of the children growing up, there is not enough time to give to the one person you promised to love and cherish above all others.

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Rekindling the physical side of your relationship may not be high on the agenda and it may not be as often as when you were younger, but what is important is the quality of the time you spend together. It is equally important to be affectionate, to touch and kiss, to hold hands, and to say ‘I love you’.

There are many ways that can help to keep the love alive in any relationship, for instance; The gift of giving, praise is huge and it’s so easy to give. Just look at the things that make your other half unique and get into the habit of praising them for those special things. In a mutually satisfying relationship, both people’s needs are expressed, and they have the flexibility to give and take.
Sharing deep feelings with each other is emotional intercourse, and it’s vital to sexual satisfaction.
These are the secrets I’ve learned to having a successful 25-year relationship.

1. Accept your partner for who they are. If you’re always trying to change your partner, the only thing you’ll accomplish is resentment.

2. Everyone has a desire to be right, but most of the time insisting on being right will drive you and your partner crazy. Choose to be kind, rather than right, and admit you are wrong after an argument.

3. Don’t make assumptions or take things personally otherwise you are likely to feel unloved.
It’s not always about us, more likely something they’re personally thinking about.

4. Be willing to learn from each other how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what is the real problem.

5. Always say ‘I love you’ before you go to sleep.

For my love; I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I'm with you.